My Understanding of the Chinese Friendship

In China, there has never existed any concept of friendship, which is so plain and rather evident. It is supplanted by "Guan Shi", which is nice and abstract to the "pragmatic" Chinese people. "Guan Shi" is relationship in English, and an unspoken rule in China. It has nothing to do with bribery originally, but ultimately it takes root in bribery and becomes prosperous among the Chinese at all levels. The average of the Chinese make it a rule to give and take small gifts. If anyone ignores the importance of their "etiquette", they would pull a long face at the minimum; and at the maximum, in the case that you request them for a favor, they would quarrel and even fight with you, calling you names!

It is not necessary to bribe them all the time. However, it is significent to smoothen relationship frequently, because "Guan Shi" goes sour quickly in China! What a Chinese might give in order to be "friendly" are, at ramdom, an apple, a bottel of Soda, a candy bar, pinches of sunflower seeds, a cigarette or certain favor that you might call "help".

It might mortally lead to a failure in your career, if you neglect to give gifts without analysing your situation. In a Chinese society, your status is in danger, when you begin to hear complaints claiming you to be selfishnes, mean or cunning. Their attitude towards you could decide your future, you either dine out with them or leave with a dismissal notice.

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